Single enrolment


Single enrolment for 6 weeks

Enrolment to this behavioural program is on an individual basis as the learning is interactive and personalised. One parent choosing to do this program can make a difference.


Learning outcomes

Part 1: Introduction and You

  • Reasons why engagement in the program is important and relevant;
  • Common roadblocks to commitment to a behavioural change experience;
  • Learning new skills requires alertness, acceptance of critical feedback and challenging sceptical thoughts;
  • Considere reflections on others who describe their experiences of separation;
  • Challenge established thought patterns in order for individual actions to become more flexible, helpful and adaptable.

Part 2: Looking after yourself

  • Learn to improve self-care and enhance effective parenting capacity at a time when the child needs it most;
  • Use focused strategies around thinking as a way to manage intense emotions and to improve reaction behaviours to stressful situations;
  • Understand common negative self-talk patterns and learn ways to manage them;
  • Practice re-framing techniques and shift to more positive, solution-based thinking;
  • Learn cognitive and behavioural strategies for moderating intense emotions;
  • Learn the effects of anger on a separation; explore common myths about anger and identify ways to manage anger in yourself and others;
  • Consider how to adopt behaviours and cognitions to help reduce and manage stress;
  • Reflect on a bigger picture view to assist with managing perspectives and expectations for yourself and others;
  • Downloaded worksheets on Negative thoughts, Managing Anger and Emotions Wheel.

Part 3: Your children

  • Learn how divorce affects children, what is normal and what is not normal for children at each age and stage of their development; Learnt to use the frequency, severity and duration tool;
  • Common myths about children and divorce and learn how you can minimise harm;
  • Increase awareness about your child’s attachment needs, relationships and temperament strengths and vulnerabilities;
  • Learn ways to help your child adjust to the changes in their family, households and routines and practiced new tools to assist them to cope;
  • Observe, review and practice new ways to communicate with your child in their new family circumstances to improve their future psychological wellbeing;
  • Identify transition challenges, consider the ways in which your child observes you as a model of ways to behave and respond;
  • Learn strategies on how to tell your child you are going to separate from their other parent; watch a best practice model and learnt ways to remedy a less than ideal outcome;
  • Observe, learn and practise positive coaching skills; how to recognise when a child is having difficulties, and how you can coach your child towards recovery and resilience;
  • Download worksheets on children & stress and how to tell the children about divorce.

Part 4: The Conflict

  • Learn how intense conflict affects you and others and can be a form of intimacy and an addictive cycle that is hard to break;
  • Reflect on personal contribution to the issues and how to engage with your ex-partner in a way that resolves problems;
  • Recognise how conflict affects your child;
  • Gain an appreciation of the attributes of high conflict personalities, how to identify and observe these traits; how to implement specific skills and behaviours to reduce negative interactions with others;
  • Learn specific strategies on how to set boundaries, why boundaries are important and how one parent can make a difference;
  • Observe, reviewe and learn how to manage extreme handover situations and talk your way out of conflict;
  • Learntpragmatic ways to manage ongoing conflict;
  • Download resources on setting personal boundaries.

Part 5: The Plan

  • Learn respectful communication techniques and how to use them with the other parent;
  • Observe and learn how to build a business-like relationship and go back to basics in communication by recognising, practicing and reviewing communication traps and pitfalls;
  • Improve personal communication with specific strategies, skills and techniques to build awareness and a more flexible mindset towards positive interactions;
  • Learn how to positive frame issues with your ex-partner with “how to” and “how not to” lessons; review clear steps to getting your message heard positively and how to make a polite parenting request;
  • Observe, learn and practise how to construct and deliver a positive proposal to your ex-partner; and how to manage a difficult conversation or topic with your ex-partner;
  • Learn helpful things to do and say when things are going wrong; learn and revise communication strategies that reduce conflict;
  • Download worksheets on communication pitfalls, communication techniques and helpful statements.

Part 6: The Future & The Law

  • Learn how to make an introduction to a new partner when you (or your ex-partner) forms a new relationship; what to expect and how to respond;
  • Develop an understanding of how to adjust to a step parenting relationship;
  • Recognise that change is inevitable and to be expected and that communication with your ex-partner will be ongoing for many years;
  • Recognise that a new partner may or may not be readily accepted by your child and learn strategies to manage this situation;
  • Observe and learn how to troubleshoot change, what you can prepare for and how to help your children with the transitions;
  • Understand broadly how the Family Law system works in Australia and the pathways or process through which a family law dispute in Australia can be resolved or settled;
  • Download an infographic of the family law system in Australia.